| Feminism and F*ck Buddies Booty calls - Fuck buddies, is it ever possible for a female to keep it at just that? Speaking from my own experience I say no and that casual sex as a single female is a con! There's no way in hell a woman can make-love like a man. I'm not talking in terms of technique, but rather in terms of emotionally not connecting. Females can forget all about what sex-loving Germaine Greer promised us in the '60s because there's no way women can sleep with a guy without bonding, since women "are vessels and ... we seek to be filled". It validates us as women and also sexual creatures if a man wants to keep the relationship going I remember in my own experiences I drummed it into my head that no matter how sexy or a great catch he was I was not going to attach myself, I was going to sit back, relax and go with the flow! Pfft yeah right. Not sleeping with a guy on the first date is hard enough for me to conquer let alone not attaching myself when I do.... We try and convince ourselves that it isn't so, we're grown women and we can handle a fling surely but sex will always leave us feeling empty unless we are certain that we are loved and that the act of sex is part of a bigger picture that we are loved for our whole selves and not just our bodies". Thanks to the increasingly small number of single guys in the world - "they're all gay or taken" - girls are no longer lusting after what we once did: Commitment and a proposal. "Instead, they're happy to be one of three being played by a guy, and know that there are so many chicks out there and not that many blokes, that they need to take what they can get." Huh? I believe while on the outside some women might say they're happy in their booty call relationships but what are they really thinking when they're home alone on a Friday night while their stud is off trying to bed your best friend! |